Hey, WE Need Playdates too!

Here’s an excerpt from O Magazine on a new book called Play: How It Shapes the Brain, Opens the Imagination, and Invigorates the Soul (available March 5th)  I just pre-ordered it from Amazon.com.

“The play’s the thing:  At a camp in the wild and windswept Canadian north, a polar bear lopes toward an  Eskimo sled dog.  In a minute, it will all be over.  But wait!  The dog is wagging his tail and bowing, all set to play – and to the astonishment of the musher, now the two animals are romping and rolling exuberantly, until the bear finally has to live on his back for a time-out.  To Stuart Brown, MD, a psychiatrist who has spent decades researching play, the whole interaction makes rip-roaring sense.  After all, he writes, playing is both a survival skill that helps you cope with life and one of the great creature comforts; it’s even a biological necessity, shaping and sharpening our brains.  His thoughtful investigation, Play (Avery), written with Christopher Vaughan, makes having fun sound like – well, fun, whether you’re dancing, flirting, risk-taking, joking, shopping, painting, or working at something you love.  Read this book, then start paying back your “play deficit” – and let the good times roll.” 

In “The Joy Diet”, Martha Beck states:

“A playful mind-set allows you to master whatever is in front of you, to form symbiotic alliances and partnerships, to adapt successfully to any challenging situation, and above all, to find a sense of fun that makes the whole shebang intrinsically satisfying.”

I don’t know about you but I want some of that.  The incredible thing about motherhood is that there’s really nothing quite like it.  The unbelievably hard thing about motherhood is that there’s really nothing quite like it.  The author, Anna Quindlen, sums it up perfectly when she writes:

“The world is full of women blindsided by the unceasing demands of motherhood, still flabbergasted by how a job can be terrific and torturous …”

In these very stressful times, play is a survival skill that we need to practice on a regular basis.

I’m hosting a free coaching call this Thursday February 19th at 8.30pm EST on the topic of “Hey, WE Need Playdates too!!“.  The call is all about the importance of play for mothers.  By play, I mean doing the things you love to do and spending time with the people you adore (who don’t need to be fellow mothers!).  Just like our children’s playdates.  It’s all about you and what makes you joyful. 


If you’d like to join me on this free call, please e-mail me at Sally@StandUpMama.com for call-in details.

The call will be recorded if you’re unable to join me for the call.

As mothers, the harsh reality is that we have significantly less time to devote to ourselves than we did pre-motherhood.  Unless you have a live-in nanny and someone to cater to your every need (and, as far as I’m aware, Madonna and Gwyneth Paltrow aren’t yet regular readers of this blog), the reality is that there is very little time just for you and what time there is has to be carved out by you.  This is the bad news.  The great news is that it means that there’s no longer any margin for mediocrity in your life.  The time that you do have for you has to be pure pleasure.   I believe that it should be spent with people you adore doing things you passionately enjoy.

If that doesn’t accurately describe your current life, then please join me on the call so that I can help you to reconnect with your playful self! 

Trust me, your children will thank you.


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